hey barnaby,
so iv’e been single for a while. totally free, and submerged in the singles scene. i met a boy and we got along right off the bat.
i was taken back; because, i got in a rut of dating older men.
so my guy is 20, as am i…we told each other of our single lives and recent relationships…recently, we had a major falling out: it began with an attempt to clarify and i guess “label” our relationship; but it just ended with a declaration that we can’t trust each other.
i couldn’t stand the idea of just being one of several girls he can just call to hang out/hook up/whatever with. So, i may have brought the issue up again.
The fight ended weeks later with him calling me a slut. We haven’t spoken since. We have a mutual friend that we both hang lots with. AND i can’t stop randomly thinking about him.
My boy and I started seeing each other in november. and we both would go crazy about our similarities. we were so compatible when we were behaving. it was those when it’s good it’s really good. when it’s bad…it’s a total s*#% storm…Any advice on what to do? get over it!/fix it!/BARNS wHat tO dO?
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Hey <<<3
Basically he wants you two to be ‘seeing’ each other, where as you want to be in a commited relationship with him right? This is a problem that comes up very often when you get involved with someone. Having to classify the relationship becomes difficult if you’re not on the same page, and you two aren’t. Although, i’m confused as to how he got to the opinion of you being a slut.
I’d say that until you both want the same thing from the relationship, its bound for disaster. That you’re not speaking at the moment is for the best, because unless he comes round to wanting to commit to you fully, any contact you have will end up hurting you. You’ll continue thinking about him of course, but that will get less and less, things will get easier and soon you’ll meet someone to take your mind off him.
Cheers,
barnaby
