I’ve been punched in the stomach by an angry bear. With big paws. [see your "sporadic" posting]
What to do?
How do you suggest I get over it?
(and please, I can’t afford any “Sex in the City” or “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” tropical vacation with my girlfriends, so let keep it cheap.)
-Nauseous
p.s. I have never seen the latter of the 2 movies.
Hey Nauseous,
If you think i’m the type to recommend girlie holidays to aid break-up pain then you’ve been reading the wrong blog.
The bear-punch is quite a feeling. Who knew the stomach could squeeze quite that tightly right? For those who haven’t read the post in question, she’s talking about this little pearl…
“My suggestion would be to give yourself some time away from him. No contact. It’s the only way. If you don’t there’s a chance that he’ll meet someone and then break contact with you for her sake. If that happens, you’ll feel like you’ve been punched in the stomach by an angry bear. With big paws.”
And really, if that’s what happened to you Nauseous, then you’re in for a time of it. If your man has met someone else then you have to just leave him to it. Don’t chase or beg or scream as that’ll just make him think he’s done the right thing. Just letting him go is for the best. Firstly because its your only chance to get over it yourself, and secondly because its the only way to make him stew in his own guilt – although that’s not a guarantee that it’ll happen, sadly.
So. Do that. And in the meantime – to help get over it, just keep busy and do all the things you couldn’t when you were together. Root back into your mind, through all the hazy “we were so good together”, “we did everything together” bullshit and remember the times where you were annoyed you couldn’t go out alone with your friends, or couldn’t flirt with that hot guy, or wondered whether you and your man were even meant to be together in the first place. Trust me, those moments existed so try to embrace them now. And have fun. By christ there are going to be enough years in your future old age where the opportunities for fun are at a premium, so just do it now. Quick. before the bear comes in for another crack.
Cheers,
barnaby
My suggested soundtrack:
Punch up at a wedding – Radiohead
How to fight loneliness – Wilco
Feeling called love – Pulp
